Does height matter to women ?
In our society today being tall is viewed as a good quality and being fat, no as good. Why? It’s all about looks and about being different. Extra weight isn’t always viewed very positive because of health complication a person could have. But looking as a very thin woman can be bad too, because of disease associated with it, such as anorexia or bulimia. People would worry that you don’t eat enough just by looking at you.
Any extremes aren’t good. Being tall, though, doesn’t depend on how much you eat or what you do, it’s something you can’t change and have to live with forever.
Don’t underestimate power of genetics. Many people look, tall, skinny, fat and etc because of genetics. I met so many people in my life who exercise more and eat better and they looked were bigger than me. Looks can be deceiving.
Many people will tell me don’t worry, if someone tells you, you are tall it’s a good thing. But do you think I like it when people point a finger at me and tell me I’m big? Or do you think I like it when children scream that I am a giant? Do you think I like when people walk pass me and whisper behind my back about my height?
No, I don’t like it.
Even if you think being tall is positive quality, I don’t like to be treated that way anyway.
I don’t know why I don’t like it, I just don’t. I get confused messages from people very often. When someone tells me I’m tall or big, I don’t always know if it’s positive or not, because it doesn’t really sound as a big compliment to me.
More about being tall vs being fat
For example, many people assume that being fat isn’t the most positive trait. I don’t personally think being fat is bad because every person is beautiful to me. But commenting on someone’s weight isn’t socially acceptable as commenting on being tall.
Being tall for a woman can be hard sometimes. We all know men are expected to be tall, so who wants to be associated in that way? A woman doesn’t always want to be taller or more masculine than a man. This is why it isn’t appropriate to comment on tall woman’s height.
I know, I’m probably only 1% of all women who are so tall, but does it give right to people point a finger at me and talk about my looks? My height is my looks.
If any of you got so many comments about your looks as I did it would make you very self conscious.
We need to protect tall women’s and especially young girls’ self esteem. If you want to talk about her being tall, tell her a compliment, tell her you love tall women and tell her it’s the most attractive thing on Earth to be tall.
Because if you just say “You are tall” or “Wow, you are so tall!” or “How tall are you?” it doesn’t sound good or positive, she will just feel different and weird because of so much attention to her physical characteristics.
Just because tall women are rare and look different it doesn’t give anyone right to point at as and talk about us.
Get used to that people are different, not everybody is the same.
Fat person and a tall person should be treated with respect and dignity.
Most people are more surprised and amazed about tall and fat people, but keep your amusement not so obvious. It really does make others more self-conscious.
More thoughts about height and weight
Whether a person is tall or short, thin or fat, shouldn’t be judged, or commented on in a negative way. If you want to say something, say what would benefit that person.
Tell a compliment any time, if you are amused don’t just say “you are tall” but say something positive about it. Most people don’t come up to someone and say “You are fat”, so tall people don’t want to be reminded all the time about their height either.
Just because tall people look different, they don’t want to be reminded about every single day or many times a day. We all want to fit in and when we hear how much we are different, it doesn’t make us feel any more accepted. Young women and girls are even more sensitive to this type of comments when they are growing up and learning about world.
For example, usually I don’t feel very tall, but I feel tall only when other people remind me about it.
Be sensitive about someone’s looks. Many women are a lot better in discussing height, but some men can be very inconsiderate and joke about it. Maybe men really think it’s funny or someone one taught them to joke and tease women in order to attract them.
It’s okay to joke sometimes about certain things, but avoid jokes about woman’s tall height or anything related to it.
Men joke a lot more with other men, that’s how they relate to each other and aren’t viewed as overly sensitive. So, men would try or attempt to relate to woman through rude jokes too as he does with guys. Women’s communication is different. Women relate to each other through indirect speech and a lot more sensitive and deep in their conversations.
Don’t be afraid to appear as a nice guy to a woman but be confident enough to talk to a woman in a nice way first. Some women love to be teased and love jokes, but test your woman first before you know if she really likes it. Women love nice men too who are confident in who they are without trying to impress her or joke with her about her looks.
You would be a lot safer to get woman’s attention through unique complement.
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