Are short men unlucky in love ?

What every tall woman should know about herself

It always seems that short guys are either miserable in dating or completely alone and single. Is it really true that short guys are unlucky in love? In my opinion, if a man, whether he is short or tall is alone and single, then he is simply isn’t very needy.

For example, a man whether he is short or tall, would try really hard to pursue a woman if he had a real need. Most people embarrassed to feel needy, they prefer to say “they want a woman in his life” but a true and real need will help a man to get through all the hard work of meeting and pursuing women. And very often it just comes down to a power struggle between a man and a woman, but I’ll write about it more in some other post.


Very often, single men, simply aren’t as needy as they proclaim to be. It’s not a conscious decision for a man to be so needy or not, it’s just subconscious need that you can’t really control.

A man might desire to be in a relationship in his own fantasy, but in reality he simply doesn’t need a woman as much as he imagined that he did.

If a man had REAL need to be in a relationship, then he wouldn’t sleep or eat but keep looking for a woman to satisfy his need. Most men they think they “need” or “want” a woman, but it’s nothing comparing to the real need.

If a certain man needed love so badly, then he would not only think about it, but he would be doing something every day, even many times a day, attempting to make his dreams come true and get closer to a desired “relationship”.

Too many men simply give up too early. Some women approach finding a husband as important task as finding a job. They put a highest priority on it. But a lot of men, don’t take relationships as seriously as they could. Men think they have done enough, but in reality they could do so much more.

So, short men aren’t particularly unlucky in love, but they simply underestimate the effort that it takes to find a woman of his dreams. A lot of men treat jobs a lot more seriously than they approach a relationship.

Short men can be lucky in love

A lot of short men have been hurt too much, that’s why it’s painful to give more effort without any reassurance. Once you get burned a few times, it’s really hard to try some more.

If you are a short man and you feel like you given a lot but didn’t receive much back from women, you need to realize that it’s always good to try.

Don’t be afraid to try and experience love. But at the same time, you have to remember that maybe you are just not a needy guy and you don’t have to be in a relationship. It’s perfectly o’kay to be single and just to focus on your job or hobbies.

So many people put unrealistic expectations on a relationship, but in reality, it’s ok to be single and it’s ok to be in a relationship as well. Don’t be ashamed for being single, maybe you are just a very independent man.

Some women are actually put off by independent men, most women usually want to feel close and have you as a friend to do things with, but for a lot of men it’s a hard concept to grasp.

No, short men not unlucky in love, but a lot of them just aren’t as needy as they think they are or aren’t trying as hard as they should or they get attracted to a wrong person and expect too much from initially wrong woman, or they are simply too independent.


Tall women with short men

Tall women with short men

Yes, women like short men or tall men and all types of men. Most women prefer a man to be taller because of social expectations but when it comes down whether they like a man or not…his height won’t be the most important quality in her attraction to a man. Men give more importance to “certain look” than women do. I heard many men told me they would date only thin women or said they only get sexually attracted to thin women.

As far as women, I never heard a woman say she gets attracted only to tall men or only to muscular men. Women’s sexuality isn’t as visual, where as in men, visual attraction plays a lot bigger role. If you are a short men, you don’t have to worry about woman’s sexual attraction, it’s more in her mind than in her eyes.


Tall woman with short men is Sexy!

Yes, tall women with short men look very sexy, it’s so rare and very attractive. You can see many celebrities where a man is a lot shorter than a woman. Look at the pictures of tall men and women in this article “Why do tall women love little men?” It’s so beautiful to see a tall woman with a with a short man. Tall women turn peoples heads who eager to look at them and when a tall woman with much shorter man they turn heads even more.

Many rich and famous men dated very tall women and in our society tall is equal to beauty, model type looking, so no surprise why rich men and go for tall women too. If a man and a woman secure enough in who they are, it won’t matter how tall they are either.

Experience with short men in my life

In my article Dating as a Tall Girl you can read more about my dating experience.

I can tell you it was great to date short men also, girls can easily fall in love with a short man too.

I never felt uncomfortable dating short guys. I always dated many men at that time in my search for my soul mate. Those men put so much effort in getting my attention, asking me out, being so nice and affectionate maybe that’s why I never felt uncomfortable with them.

They made me feel loved, welcomed and appreciated that I was always happy around them.

Usually I think I prefer taller men but when I meet a short man who I really like I could easily forget about all my preferences and expectations.

Short Husband

Maybe you wonder if my husband is a tall man or not. My husband and I are about the same height but I don’t consider him to be tall at all. Mostly, because when we are around people, people usually tell me “Wow, you are so tall!” but they never tell it to my husband even that we are similar height! So, he isn’t tall at all, but it’s o’kay. Very often I look even taller than he is because of my shoes and because I’m a woman. You know, women aren’t expected to be my height… I always thought before I probably would marry a taller man, but I was wrong.

I found so many attractive qualities in him that it wasn’t even a question in my mind whether I want to be with him or not. I married him even that he is not the tallest men I dated. He has unique qualities that I can’t find in anyone. His wonderful character is more important than his lack of height. We have been married for many years already.

My sister is married to a man who is the same height as her as well (she is about 5’9 tall and her husband is similar height also). So, there are many women who want to marry a man that is not taller than her.

Why tall women like Short men

Did you meet tall women who only prefer short men? Height prefference can be such a unique preference that some tall women are looking for. Not all tall women want short men but many do. Did you meet someone who would tell you they like only the certain way or have a certain type of hair color or eye color? If a tall woman had more positive experiences in her life with a shorter men than she will prefer shorter men. If a tall woman was hurt by tall guy then she is more likely to avoid anyone who look like him.


Women have values

Different women have different values. Some women want only good looking guys, other women want only rich guys, and other women want only short guys. You never know what is her values until you talk to her, spend time with her and learn more about her. Many women have a very specific set of qualities they are looking for. Maybe she can find all her unique qualities in a short guy. If a short men can meet most of her important needs then of course she will choose him.

I noticed more and more women marry shorter men. Not every woman is as tall as I am, but even average height girls are often marry a shorter man. I think it is very beautiful to see a man with a taller woman.

Look at Tom Cruz and Katie Holmes, they are a cute couple, she is taller than he is especially when she is on heels.

If I wear heels then my husband is shorter than me too and we both still look good together.

For some women height is a very important quality in a man and they are specifically looking for only tall men. So, it depends on a woman.

Advice to short men

If you love tall women and you meet a very tall woman, don’t just assume she is looking for tall men. Give her a chance. You don’t know her yet, so maybe she loves shorter guys.

Or maybe her most important qualities in a man isn’t height at all. Take your time and get to know her, you might be pleasantly surprised and you could have a great relationship together!

Why short men are attracted to tall women ?

Short men do get attracted to tall women. Did you hear saying “Opposites attract” it is true. Just because short men and a tall woman look a lot different they still can have an attraction toward each other. I’m a tall woman and I was attracted to short men before.

As far as attraction it is no different if I was attracted to a tall man. Many men are taught by our society that they have to be taller but in reality who really cares? It’s o’kay to be attracted to a taller woman if you are both happy.

Sometimes we decide what we prefer in our perfect mate as far as height and looks. Many of our characteristics come from our own subconscious and conscious needs. If you can meet most of them in your tall woman that is great.


Tall women and sexuality

Tall women are sexy. People are attracted to tall women because they look beautiful, sexy and elegant. Many get attracted to tall women because they look so unusual and exotic.

It is so rare to meet a tall woman and if you do spend time with her you would feel as a lucky guy with a very interesting experience.

Other men are looking for a dominant looks or personality in a woman they believe tall woman will meet their needs.

Sometimes men had certain experiences happened in their youth and they feel always attracted to tall women since then. And other men get attracted to tall women because they like her personality and she is a great match to him in every way.

My personal experience

My husband isn’t taller than me, so maybe you wonder how we got attracted to each other? First of all, he never dated any tall women before me. It wasn’t that he was looking for a very tall woman or a model.

It just happened that I liked him and I was nice to him, so he fall in love with my looks and personality. He loves me to be so tall and thin and beautiful. Not everyone thinks I am a beautiful person but it’s important to me that he does.

If I was taller or shorter he would still love me as much. He loves me being me. I liked him a lot too that’s why I was very happy to marry him. I’m still very happy to be married.

He is smart and understanding and can meet most of my needs. Very often I look taller than he is especially if I wear heels. He never gets intimidated by my height, because he is a very secure person. He loves me being so tall and beautiful.

Can a tall girl fall in love with a short guy ?

The answer is YES, a tall girl can fall in love with a short guy. I am a very tall girl and I was in love with a short guy before. If you make her feel good, if you make her happy, of course she can fall in love with you.

Surprisingly, only love isn’t everything. You need to find out all her priorities in her perfect partner. If your views on life will be the same, if you have similar goals, morals, and hopes for the future, she will be able to fall in love even easier.

Different women have different criteria for the perfect man. If you can meet most of her needs then you both would be very happy together.


Maybe she is attracted to a man that can appreciate her, tell her complements, make her feel good, has certain beliefs in God or something else. Or maybe she wants rich, good looking guy. Women don’t have the same values, what is a value to one woman maybe isn’t important to another woman.

How to make a tall woman to fall in love with a short guy

You need to make her feel good so she would be interested in you. Find what she likes, find out her values and find out what she wants. If you can give her what she wants, then of course she will be yours. However, there are no guarantees if she will love you or not. We can’t force people to love us. We can help this process or ruin chances, but if she is not into you, then move on to another girl.

Treat her with respect and care. Women love to feel loved and be cherished. Also, be realistic, if you are 20 years older, aren’t good looking, and have other problems there may be a lot less chance for her to fall in love. But if you are a normal guy that most girls want then of course go for it and find out if you can have a great future together. And if you are older or have problems, just look for a girl that will accept you the way you are.

Should you try to date a taller girl if you are short?

Sure. Why not? You could have a great time anyway. Even if you wouldn’t fall in love with each other you could still have a good time and have great memories. Take it slow, learn about each other and maybe some day she will fall in love with you as much as you are in love with her.

Date all women of different looks. You never know to whom you could be attracted until you start dating and experience different relationships. And remember if you tried everything you could and a girl can’t love you, maybe there are many other girls who would love a short guy. Move to a big city if you have to, there you could meet more women and choose the one you love.

How tall is too tall to wear heels ?

There is no specific limit how tall is too tall for a woman to wear heels. Each woman can decide what she prefers. Some very tall women who are 6ft are comfortable wearing heels, but also very short women are happy in flats too. Just because you are tall it doesn’t mean that you should or shouldn’t wear heels.

Many people judge tall women harshly whether she is wearing or not wearing heels.


For example, when a tall woman wears flats, some people would think she wears flats because she is not confident with her height, but when a short woman wears flats, people think she wears flats because she likes them.

So, if you are tall you are better off to wear heels, but if you don’t care what anyone thinks then you can wear flats too.

There are so much information on the internet why tall women should wear heels. I think tall women shouldn’t anything, but do what they want. You can wear heels if you like shoes and you love heels and you also can wear flats if you love them. Just because people say tall women should wear heels isn’t a requirement but a suggestion and encouragement.

Decide for yourself

Just because someone says you should or shouldn’t wear heels, don’t make them influence you. You know yourself better. If you want to wear your high heels, then wear them. If you want to wear flats or tennis shoes you can wear them too. Find what you are comfortable with, because at the end of the day people will remember your great personality but particularly what you were wearing.

If you decided to wear heels, then be confident with your decision. No matter what you will wear, some people would always find to criticize something or talk about, so don’t get influenced by others.

If you decided wear flats, be confident with your decision too no matter what others think. People can think anything they want but it’s only up to you how you decide to live your life.

Tall women don’t have to wear heels as much as short women don’t have to wear heels. Be happy, be comfortable with what you do.

I was wearing high heels when I was younger, I dressed sexier back then too. As I got older, the looks aren’t that important especially after you get married and settle down. I personally, don’t mind if someone wants to wear heels everyday, I just don’t wear heels as much anymore. I feel beautiful and comfortable in any kind of shoes and I hope all women will feel beautiful no matter what she decides to wear.

Your decision also could depend on your circle of friends, if they wear high heels often, you are more likely to wear them too. The current fashion style would influence you too, if it’s popular to wear heels of flats now. So, you have a lot to consider for yourself. But remember just because you are tall, there are no rules whether you should or shouldn’t wear heels.

How to be confident as a tall girl

First of all, you have to realize that some people look more confident than others naturally. If confidence wasn’t your gift from nature, then you can work on it.

Also, you need to know that feeling confident and being perceived confident are two different qualities.

For example, I always felt confident about myself no matter what but people didn’t always perceived me as confident. It was a surprise to me when I finally realized it.

So, what do you want? Do you want to feel confident or do you want to be perceived confident or both? Most of us, we want it all.

Your looks

If you are a very thin woman, if you have a soft voice and look very young, it could be harder for you to be perceived as confident ordominant woman. Not all of us have dominant physical characteristics. I remember one interesting observation…I was watching a man talking to a teenage boy…and a boy felt uncomfortable and told him “Don’t yell at me! You are yelling at me!” where as a man was surprised and said he was talking in his normal voice.

So, this man realized he scared a boy, so he started whispering to him to communicate with him. Isn’t it interesting how some people appear confident and more dominant without even trying? If I could describe that man, he was very tall and had very loud and deep voice.

So, if you are a cute skinny young girl it could be a challenge for you in some way. I’m going to give you a few tips to make you look more confident.

More tips to look confident:

  • Wear make up and high heels. Women who wear a make up appear more confident to people than women without make up.
  • Dress best as you can, first impression matters and your looks and your dress are important too.
  • Wear high heels if you like, women in high heels appear more confident too. Even if you are very tall, high heels will make you look confident too.
  • Observe how you speak and how you move. Ask others for advice how you should talk or move in order to project confidence.
  • Associate and be around confident people. People will perceive you more confident too if you associate with confident people.
  • Experiment what works for you. What works for you, doesn’t always work for everybody else. Try to find out your personal strategy.Feeling ConfidentFeeling confident is a lot easier to feel confident than to be perceived confident. If you want to feel confident, all you have to do is to have positive self talk. Tell yourself you are the best looking woman and the most interesting person in the room. It will help you to project some confidence too. Feeling confident will make you feel better in the long run.If you can, try both, feel confident and look confident.

    Ask yourself why you want to look confident. Maybe people love you the way you are and they wouldn’t want you to change?

    Don’t over do it though. You have a chance to be perceived too confident and people would avoid you too. Not everyone one loves overly confident people. Maybe people love you the way you are and you they don’t want to see powerful woman in you yet. Being confident is a good thing, but if you are trying too hard, you could send a wrong message about who you are.

    We all choose at some point who we are and personal truth that we hold about ourselves. Believe the best about yourself and you will get in a right direction.

    Speak positively to yourself when you look in the mirror, when you are around people. Confident and not so confident person have different point of view in the same situation. Decide you want to be confident and brave woman. Don’t listen to those who are trying to convince you otherwise. Hold your personal belief unshakable and stable. Everything starts from just a belief.

    You can tell yourself that your height is great and it is part of who you are. If you can’t change it, embrace it. People can be attractive if they are tall or short, confident or less confident, it can all be attractive to someone.

    I want to help you to accept yourself and love yourself. You need to have a great relationship with yourself first. Being tall isn’t easy, as being short isn’t easy or if you have other issues that you have to deal with.

    How to get peace of mind about your height

    None of us can’t be liked by everybody. Even biggest celebrities aren’t liked or accepted by everyone. If you have less confidence because of that, remember nobody is perfect. Even the most beautiful men or women aren’t completely satisfied with their looks. So, if you don’t feel confident sometimes it’s o’kay too.

    I met some very confident people in my life, and I was so surprised when they shared their insecurities and their worries. I would never guess they don’t feel confident, because they looked confident and almost perfect.

    For example, many very beautiful girls are affraid to leave the house without make up because they think they look bad. I was very surprised when I heard this, because I thought those women were completely flawless and completely perfect.

    So, next time when you think you aren’t confident enough, remember that some people would think that you are great. Some people would even wish they would look like you or had some great qualities about you.

    How to look confident if you are treated badly

    Most of us have some idea how we want to be treated. If you are a tall girl and you think you don’t look confident enough because of your height, think about what made you to believe that. Maybe someone told you that you don’t look confident?

    For example, when a girl slouches, everybody thinks she does it because she is trying to hide her height…but when a short girl slouches nobody noticed or even cares about it.

    Another example, when a tall girl doesn’t wear high heels, some people think it’s because tall girl is not confident about her height, but if a short girl doesn’t wear high heels nobody really cares why she doesn’t wear them.

    When you are very tall, people could have such prejudices and could judge you unfairly. Is it fair? No it isn’t. Being tall is like being celebrity, you will get noticed more often, but it can be negative attention or judgment too.

    We don’t choose to be tall, we are born this way. Have a positive view on life. You will encounter sometimes negative judgmental people, but believe people are nice and even they say something “strange” sometimes, it’s because they don’t know any better. Beleive people are nice and they are good to you. Even if they said something that can make you upset or irritated, maybe they didn’t know it would upset you.

    For example, many tall women get tired of tall comments they always get, but maybe people who say them didn’t mean to upset you but were just impressed by your looks. Try to find positive in every situation and it will help you to be more confident.

    Tall girl or a young woman could be very confused about her own body image when she receives so much attention and comments. Be happy that you are different. Learn to love yourself first no matter what someone says. People judge others because of personal insecurities, so even if you were your “perfect self” someone would still try find faults if they want in anything. Brush off bad comments and remember the good ones. Focus on being grateful and happy about your looks and who you are.